>I first started thinking about using this song for a Monday Music last week after the comments made by Philip Davies in the House of Commons (he said that disabled people should work for less than minimum wage as they are less productive.) People were tweeting how they were not worthless and it came to mind. But in the end I tweeted a link to a video of Bruno Mars, Just The Way You Are.
Then it turned into a bit of a week when people make stupid comments about my disability.
First, earlier in the week someone was saying where the disabled loo was at the event and another person went “where’s the normal one?” to be honest I found that kinda funny but she was totally and utterly mortified when she realised what she’d said and apologised repeatedly. I’m sure she was much more bothered than I was.
Then on Saturday I asked someone “so… how are you?” The gestured at my wheelchair and then went “well… better than you.” I said “I’m fine.” and she said “I know you are” That did make me want to roll my eyes but it’s someone I know well who hasn’t been at all well, who didn’t look good and said it in such a stiff upper lip “mustn’t grumble” type way that I understood and let it go.
A bit later I was out for a bit of a wheel and an acquaintance stopped me to ask if I wanted a push. I said no and we chatted a bit. We’ve known each other a few years but only on and off and really don’t know each other that well. Our conversation went a bit like this:
“How long have you been disabled?”
“From birth. I’ve got CP the same as [a CPer we both know]”
“oh how tragic.”
“Well you were whole and then there was an accident with your birth and now you’re disabled”
“I’m whole now. And anyway a lack of oxygen at birth was never gonna turn out well. Better disabled than dead.”
She got called away at that point which was probably a good thing. I was very annoyed by that conversation. Being disabled doesn’t make me less of a person. But I didn’t lose it with her because I didn’t feel I could and also I was shocked by the way the conversation had gone. Now I’ve had time to think about it? Not happy at all.
I’m a sailor, a writer, a volunteer CAB adviser, a knitter, a friend, a daughter, a sister. I’m messy, I’m opinionated, disorganised and loud. I dye my hair crazy colours, spend too much time on twitter, read crappy fanfics and go to bed much too late. I lose track of time reading too many books, like Doctor Who and want to start watching Grey’s Anatomy again. I eat too much chocolate and drink too much coke. I’m learning to crochet and have piles of unused scrapbooking materials. And yes I have both depression and CP. And I use a wheelchair. But none of those make me any less of a person who spends all their time on their own two feet. The most important thing? I’m me. I’m Emma.
So for this week’s Monday Music I’m sharing Born This Way. Originally by Lady Gaga, this is the Glee version. Mostly because the Lady Gaga video is really annoying (the song doesn’t start for several minutes into the video) but also because, basically it’s Glee. I love the tops they wear too.