Earlier this week I had an appointment. It didn’t go that well.
What it was for was fine but the person the appointment was with was a bit abrupt and rude. I’m relatively sure that wasn’t the intention but it doesn’t change the fact that if there was a list of “things not to say to a wheelchair user” at least two of their comments would be on it. I picked them up on one of them.
Anyway this led to me being in my powerchair headed home via the supermarket and in A Bad Mood.
I’m wandering along the path and a little way ahead of me is an older lady. There’s a newish pelican crossing ahead or I could be turning and heading a different way. Where we are there’s no way to tell which I’m doing.
The lady stopped and when I got closer waved me ahead saying “you come past”
I said Thank you.
She then said “go round to the crossing. Make sure you cross there.”
I still could have been going somewhere different and I’d probably find that part patronising at anytime
But there’s the small matter of the aforementioned Bad Mood
So I’ll admit I was a little annoyed and very sarcastic when I replied “yeah, I do know where I’m going.”
I was going to cross the road.
I was sat waiting at the crossing when the older lady reached it.
She caught my eye and said “I don’t like crossing roads. Would you mind if I crossed with you?”
I said that’d be fine and made doubly sure it was safe before telling her so and she followed me across the road.
That’s a lesson for me.
All I could think about that was “I am such a bitch.”
I thought she was being patronising and infantilising me.
She just wanted help.