Someone declared a few months ago that there “must be lots of things I want to do but can’t.” They mentioned someone they knew was ill (I believe – had been hospitalised anyway) and was finding they couldn’t do stuff. I think they may have been venting frustrations. I said no, I didn’t know how that felt because I can do everything I want to do.
From her reaction, I don’t think she believed me and I ended up back tracking and justifying that statement by pointing out that I’m lifelong disabled so I’ve never known any different (I am annoyed with myself that I allowed her to make me feel I had to do that).
She is right that there are things I’d like to do but can’t
- I can’t do everything I want to do in London this week as they are too far apart to fit in.
- I can’t see most of my friends as often as I want as they are too far away
- I can’t go to the gym more than once a week as the best session for me is only on once a week
- I can’t write all the stories and other things I want to as I don’t have the time.
- I can’t stop buying books and yarn despite all the unread and used items in my flat.
But she’s also wrong. Because everyone, disabled or otherwise, has things they want to do but can’t. And the things I currently can’t do are due to life and circumstances. Not due to having Cerebral Palsy or being a wheelchair user.