2019,  Action 4,  disability normal,  Quickie Jive,  things people say

In which able-bodied people are weird but if I point it out I’m the weird one.

I was in my manual chair on Thursday while the powerchair was with the tech.

My morning carer said “Wow you must be strong doing that.” And I was pleased because I feel like I’ve lost so much strength and can do so little in my manual compared to years ago. But I was managing well and I liked the compliment.

An hour later the tech came and took my powerchair. Once he left the guy who was here working on my bathroom asked if there was something wrong with it. I explained that it had gone for some routine stuff. Then he said “it must be hard pushing that chair.” I just said “well it’s certainly not as quick!”

At first it amused me to have two such contrasting reactions to the same thing – both congratulatory and commiseration. But it also frustrated me. Because it’s just one form that my normal takes, albeit a different one to most people

And it makes me wonder if I should start doing the same thing to able-bodied people. My Dad and my Uncle are in my garden doing some work at the moment. If I went out there and was like “You must be really strong walking like that” or “That must hard climbing that ladder” they’d think I was really weird.

I don’t get it.

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