• 2018,  attitudes,  disability

    Blogging and Blogtober

    I have been thinking a lot about blogging lately (and about writing in general). And I came to many conclusions, the main one of which was I don’t want to stop blogging. So I decided that I would take part in #Blogtober this month (blogging everyday) because if that doesn’t help me find my love for blogging again, nothing will. (One of these days I’m going to look back and see how many times I’ve shared similar thoughts on here in the last three or so years. Probably an embarrassing number of times). My bio on Facebook describes me as “writer, blogger, reader, adviser, crafter, reviewer, wheelchair user, advocate, crip.”…

  • 2017,  attitudes,  disability,  Uncategorized

    What Have You Done Today To Make You Feel Proud?

    (title is a lyric from the Heather Small song Proud) A few days ago an acquaintance heard I’d done something and was really impressed. She was trying to encourage me to write about it for Tenants Times because doing so could inspire other people and it was a big deal what I’ve done. I was frustrated by that conversation because I couldn’t see what the big deal was and I don’t understand why it’s news and people who don’t know me would be interested in it. Plus all I could see was it turning into some form of inspiration porn even if I was the one to write it. I…

  • 2016,  acceptance,  argh,  attitudes,  awareness,  CP related,  frustrations,  things people say,  Uncategorized,  wheelchair

    “She’ll run you over”

    There are a lot of allegedly jokey comments that people make about or to me as a wheelchair user.  Usually well meaning and perhaps an attempt at being funny. They aren’t funny.  Most of them never were but one or two may have been if not for the fact that I hear them all the time.  I’m talking about the “women drivers” comments. The people who say “do you have a license for that thing?” Those who randomly see me and go “no speeding!” And many others. I often roll my eyes at that sort of thing and let it go because it’s usually strangers and theres no point getting…

  • 2016,  attitudes,  complaints,  courage,  CP related,  customer service,  disability,  Uncategorized

    So Take Me As I Am

    (title is a lyric from the Meredith Brooks song Bitch) A couple of weeks ago I was asked how I’d enjoyed a show I went to by a member of staff there who I know. I had enjoyed it but there had been one thing that had happened – which was tangentally access related – that had really irritated me.  It was totally inconsequential and unlikely to be repeated but it had had an impact on my enjoyment and they asked so… I said “If I could just make one slightly bitchy point….” More recently than that I discovered that the actions of someone else have left me with a…

  • 2015,  acceptance,  attitudes,  books and reading,  disability,  fiction,  language,  quotes,  Uncategorized

    “Special Needs”

    Language around disability is a really tricky thing. Some terms are acceptable to some people and completely unacceptable to others. Some are fine for disabled people to use amongst themselves or to refer to themselves but problematic when used by strangers.  And there are times when disabled people argue amongst themselves about the terms.  People first language and identity first language are two of the biggest culprit’s there. One term that I’ve been saying I don’t like and arguing against for the last few years is “special needs”  I can explain why I don’t like it but it’s something I find others always agree with although some people do come…

  • 2014,  attitudes,  comedy,  complaints,  Uncategorized

    Hate isn’t Funny

    On Saturday Mum and I went to a Jack Whitehall gig in Oxford.  He definitely wasn’t the best comedian I’ve ever seen but most of the time he was pretty funny.  Once or twice he pretended to have forgotten his script and at least once he really did forget his script which was a bit frustrating. Unfortunately however he also made several jokes that I thought were right on the line of what is and isn’t acceptable when it comes to disability.  I can take that.  I think I’m a lot more flexible than some people are on the sort of comments I find acceptable and I thought a couple…

  • 2014,  attitudes,  awareness,  campaigns,  CP related,  disability,  disability normal,  disablism,  internet,  interwebs,  medical model,  perspective,  ranting,  social model,  twitter,  Uncategorized

    In which I get Ranty

    (subtitle: and lose my shit all over the Internet.) This is ridiculous. In fact It’s the most stupid thing ever and frankly I probably shouldn’t dignify it with a response but I can’t let it go. There’s an American company called 3eLove. They sell a range of products with their logo on – the logo is a wheelchair symbol like you see on many different things but with the wheel replaced with a heart. It’s called the wheelchair heart.  I can’t remember if I’ve blogged about it before or not. Their products have a variety of slogans on as well as the wheelchair heart.  In 2012 my parents gave me…

  • 2013,  access,  attitudes,  CP related,  current affairs,  disability,  Disability Glossary,  medical model,  personal,  perspective,  social model,  Uncategorized

    Quick and Dirty #Disability Theory

    I posted on Facebook earlier this afternoon that I’d given someone a spur of the moment elevator pitch length explanation of the social and medical models of disability and they’d understood it without my needing to clarify any further. This was, and is, a win. Especially because I really believe they actually understood it and didn’t just say so to shut me up. Then one of my friends posted that she doesn’t speak disability. And apparently I have blog entries on here dating back to 2006 but have never defined the models. Despite having both a social and a medical model category on here. So here goes. This will be…

  • 2013,  attitudes,  awareness,  complaints,  hospital,  jay2,  Uncategorized,  wheelchair

    Making a Difference

    I was rereading some old blog entries earlier. I was planning to write something (not this post) and I thought maybe I’d written about it last year. I didn’t find anything but what I did come across was this post. I thought it was kind of apt given a piece of news I received today. After three and a half months I finally received my new wheelchair cushion. It’s strange. It’s good and it’s comfy. But it almost feels off. This is set up differently to my old one and I’m not sure if that’s why (I have the stuff to change the set up to my old one if…

  • 2013,  attitudes,  Uncategorized

    Um, yeah

    Earlier this week I had an appointment. It didn’t go that well. What it was for was fine but the person the appointment was with was a bit abrupt and rude. I’m relatively sure that wasn’t the intention but it doesn’t change the fact that if there was a list of “things not to say to a wheelchair user” at least two of their comments would be on it. I picked them up on one of them. Anyway this led to me being in my powerchair headed home via the supermarket and in A Bad Mood. I’m wandering along the path and a little way ahead of me is an…