• 2015,  disablism,  musicals,  Uncategorized

    Third Time Lucky? Yes.

    Just wanted to post a quick blog to say that it was indeed third time lucky and I not only made it to Birmingham yesterday but there were no problems at the theatre and after a lunch at Pizza Express Rachel and I were able to see Dirty Dancing. It was good!  It wasn’t what I was expecting and wasn’t the most musical like musical I’ve ever seen but I enjoyed it and I’m glad we went.  I’d say that I’m not adding the soundtrack to the vast collection of musical soundtracks that fills my iTunes library but I seem to remember saying that after another friend and I saw…

  • 2014,  advocacy,  awareness,  complaints,  creative,  disablism,  musicals,  theatre,  Uncategorized

    Hate isn’t Funny Part Three

    It’s not really appropriate to call this post Hate Isn’t Funny part three because I don’t think it was really about hate just about clueless people not thinking things through properly.  But the two posts I wrote on the same subject in February were about hate and I called them Hate isn’t Funny so it feels right to use that title for this and continue the series even if it probably isn’t the best title for this particular anecdote. /end nonsensical ramble about blog titles. Back in February I went to see Omid Djalili and his show was quite ableist and frankly in a couple of places full of hate. …

  • 2014,  disablism,  things people say,  Uncategorized

    Can you actually hear yourself?

    Sometimes I think I should start carrying a dictaphone or similar around with me everywhere and recording my conversations.  Because just lately so many people have said things to me – people who I know – and have come across so ableist that I’ve been shocked.  And in a couple of the cases I’ve known what they’ve actually meant and suspected that if I made them listen back to what they said they may well realise how inappropriate their wording was. In two of the three most recent cases I feel confident that the other person in the conversation didn’t mean to hurt me and was just wording things wrong…

  • 2014,  attitudes,  awareness,  campaigns,  CP related,  disability,  disability normal,  disablism,  internet,  interwebs,  medical model,  perspective,  ranting,  social model,  twitter,  Uncategorized

    In which I get Ranty

    (subtitle: and lose my shit all over the Internet.) This is ridiculous. In fact It’s the most stupid thing ever and frankly I probably shouldn’t dignify it with a response but I can’t let it go. There’s an American company called 3eLove. They sell a range of products with their logo on – the logo is a wheelchair symbol like you see on many different things but with the wheel replaced with a heart. It’s called the wheelchair heart.  I can’t remember if I’ve blogged about it before or not. Their products have a variety of slogans on as well as the wheelchair heart.  In 2012 my parents gave me…

  • 2013,  BADD,  disability,  disablism,  discrimination,  Uncategorized

    Bored

    I’m bored. I’m bored of being seen only as the one in the wheelchair. I’m bored of my disability being all people remember about me I’m bored of being defined by my CP. I’m bored of complete strangers demanding to know how long I’ve been in a wheelchair Of them asking “what happened?” And then when that doesn’t get the answer they want demanding to know “what’s wrong with you? I’m bored of fighting. Of having my concerns ignored Of asking for something and having it decided for me that something else will do. I’m bored of saying that I need something and explaining why. Then having that explanation ignored…

  • 2013,  attitudes,  blogging,  campaigns,  CP related,  current affairs,  disability,  disability blogs,  disablism,  freedom,  guest blog,  interwebs,  language,  Paralympics,  political,  press,  ranting,  sailing,  Uncategorized

    Disability in the media

    I’m paying a second visit over at Bea Magazine this month.  I wrote about the disability issues which were raised by the news that paralympian Oscar Pistorius has been arrested on suspicion of murdering his girlfriend Reeva Steenkamp. You can read it here: Disability and the Reeva Steenkamp Murder The coverage of disability in the media has always been problematic but I’m really hoping this might be the beginning of it changing. I suspect that it’s more likely that it will change the way violence against women is covered by the media than disability.  Still I hope. Last year I was asked to speak to the local paper about my…

  • 2013,  advocacy,  attitudes,  awareness,  campaigns,  current affairs,  disability,  disablism,  good/bad,  Uncategorized

    Tell A Feminist Thank You and Disability Mentors

    Since this afternoon I keep seeing tweets pop up with #tellafeministthankyou (hashtag “tell a feminist thank you” for those who find those hard to read). I got to thinking.  It would be good to have a similar thing for people who campaign on disability issues.  But what would you call it? Feminism is generally considered to be a good thing and to have made amazing strides forward in rights for women both in this country and others.  The suffragette movement and the fact women in the UK can vote being just one example.  It’s the one that comes to mind because I just read The Children’s Book by AS Byatt…

  • 2012,  acceptance,  advocacy,  Attempts at World Domination,  CP related,  disability,  disability normal,  disablism,  discrimination,  influences,  normal,  perspective,  Uncategorized

    Happy Tears

    I was asked to speak at an equality event today. About the access group (AFA) I’m chair of and a bit about my own story as a disabled person. I think it well. I didn’t write a speech, I had a few ideas but wanted to just talk off the cuff. It helped that this is I think the third time I’ve explained to people what and why AFA is (although previously I’ve only done so in informal settings). The very first idea I’d thought of when thinking it over I forgot to use. I talked about how I don’t suffer from CP because it’s all I’ve ever known. How…

  • access,  BADD,  disability,  disability normal,  disablism,  Uncategorized

    >The Fight Never Ends – #BADD2011

    >Today is Blogging Against Disablism Day (BADD).  BADD started in 2006 I believe making this the 6th BADD.  When it was first set up I was a campaigner and an advocate but not as much as I am now.  I was really excited by the prospect of this day when we could all come together and work towards a common goal – the fight against disablism. 6 years later? Not so much. Days like BADD and other events like One Month Before Heartbreak are wonderful at raising awareness.  And they take a lot of work to organise so I have big respect for The Goldfish from that point of view…

  • comedy,  disability,  disablism,  Uncategorized,  violence against disabled people

    >Comedians and Disablist Jokes

    >At the gig I went to tonight the headline comedian (Milton Jones) made a joke about people faking disabilities to get benefits. Which as you might imagine ruined my enjoyable of the rest of the show. I’m not going to share the joke here because I don’t want to give it “air time”. However I’ve since found an e-mail address for him and have let him know my thoughts on the matter. As it’s a subject which I don’t think gets the attention it should (Ricky Gervais, Frankie Boyle and Jim Davidson all being well known for doing the same but still popular) I thought I would share the e-mail…