• things people say,  Uncategorized,  unexpected things

    >Opening Gambit

    >I had the most bizarre experience earlier today.  I was walking up to the bureau about lunchtime and there with this guy on a push bike who was riding along but slowed down to talk to me.  Not someone I know. The very first thing he said was “people laugh at you all the time because you’re disabled.”  Weird. Then he started talking about how my chair means I can go down the town and run people over.  The main gist of what he was saying was things about how “isn’t it good what disabled people can do these days?” I responded to him a bit then said I needed to…

  • friends,  things people say,  Uncategorized,  wheelchair

    >Wheelchair Comments

    >My brother saw my new manual chair for the first time at the weekend. His comment? “It’s very wide.” Yes it is. Thankfully that was a comment I overheard him say to my mum as she got it out the car because I’m not sure what I would have said to that. On Tuesday my cleaner moved my powerchair forward so she could get at the clean bedding on the shelves behind it. “I want one of these” she says. “What would you do with it?” I asked, slightly boggled by the idea. “Go shopping.” Oh, of course. I had to laugh at that. Yesterday my powerchair decided that it…

  • attitudes,  disability,  perceptions,  things people say,  Uncategorized

    >Dealing

    >Earlier in the week my landline phone went and it was a wrong number of a sort. I was sure it was actually a guy I know (he asked for “Stan” but then gave my exact phone number as the one he was after) and so I said “is that so and so, it’s Emma.” and it was and we chatted a little. I asked how he was and he said “oh struggling, but not as much as you do.” Hmm. I didn’t say anything to him about it for various reasons but dude, I think I’m insulted! My sister and I did have a bit of a giggle about…

  • things people say,  Uncategorized

    >That shut him up

    >This afternoon I actually turned round to someone who was helping me as a part of their job and telling me about job moans and replied to their comments with “do I look like I care?” It felt very good – and shut their moans up quickly. But I think I might have lost my “she’s a nice girl, that Emma” reputation as a result. Can’t say I’m particularly sorry about that. All content copyright Emma Crees, 2006 – 2012 unless otherwise stated http://writerinawheelchair.blogspot.com

  • friends,  things people say,  Uncategorized

    >*shakes head*

    >This is one of those things that I want to share but borderline crosses my “don’t blog about people you know in a way they could be identified and upset” rule for myself. But here goes. I saw someone in town earlier today. They were catching me up on various people we both know. And they told me that a guy we both vaguely knew (only really to say hi too) but hadn’t seen for a long time had died a while back. Very sad but I think from what she said it was expected. I believe it was months ago. He had downs syndrome and belonged to a group…

  • disability,  things people say,  Uncategorized

    >The Things People Say

    >People sometimes ask if I’m “getting better” or if I will get better or what happened to me. At CAB I’ve had several clients ask if I have MS and more than one client has wondered “did you have polio?” One time a client asked “what happened to you?” and I seriously was all confused by what he meant. I’d just been drinking water before I went to see him and I was looking down and checking my top and thinking I’d spilt it all over myself. He then gestured at my walker and I knew what he meant. I don’t think he got why I didn’t realise what I…