>It seemed a fairly ordinary night…

>Let's Do The TimeWarp Again!
Science Fiction, Double Feature... Frank has built and lost his creature...
Damnit, Janet

Last night my Mum and I went to see The Rocky Horror Picture Show in Oxford.

It was the second time I’ve seen it and the first time Mum saw it. She wants to go back though so I guess she liked it. I enjoyed it more this time because I wasn’t a Virgin (people who are seeing Rocky Horror for the first time are known as virgins) and so I knew more about it like to shout Slut whenever Janet’s name is mentioned and Asshole whenever Brad’s name is mentioned.

And as the pictures show I dressed up this time (click to view larger, as always). Mum dressed up too but she would kill me if I posted those pictures here. We went into Borders before we went to the theatre so we could go to the loo and as we were leaving there several people commented on our outfits, which was pretty cool. I knew people would dress up but Mum was in a right panic about it so she was relieved to see some very daring people in costumes as we got closer to the theatre. I was relieved too because it meant she shut up, LOL. I’d say we were kinda middle of the road, some people didn’t dress up and some people went a lot more dressed up. There were some pretty daring men in basques and suspenders/fishnet stockings too. Gotta Respect that!

I think the main thing with Rocky Horror isn’t the plot, the story line is weird and chaotic and it’s hard to explain. It’s the AP that makes it what it is (AP = Audience Participation). The callbacks and the costumes and waving torches during certain songs etc is what makes it what it is and thats why I love it. A lot of the callbacks are rude and/or sexual which I’m call with but my mother being who she is didn’t catch half of them and had me repeat them for her – repeating very sexual comments to my mother was not something I found fun.

I’m going again when it comes back here.

But for now…

Let’s Do The Time Warp Again!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>A Thursday Thirteen about CAB

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Thursday Thirteen

Thirteen Things about my job

1…. I am a volunteer adviser for Citizen’s Advice Bureau

2. To start with I was an admin assistant there for a couple of months.

3. I started there on Sept 1st 2004

4. And I started my adviser training at the end of October that year, I think.

5. I’ve been advising clients since May last year.

6. I’m still training but I hope to get my certificate soon.

7. I have advised about lots of different subjects, the main ones being divorce, debt, benefits, employment, immigration, neighbour disputes, housing.

8. I never know what my day is going to be like when I’m there.

9. I prefer to do face to face client advice.

10. A lot of the time I advise on the phone which I struggle with.

11. I’ve always been something of a passionate activist but CAB has made me more of one.

12. I’ve learnt a lot of valuable lessons about myself and about life whilst working at CAB

13. I love my job (most of the time, at least)

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1. Ardice

2. Shi

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>Two Months!

>(another cross-post from  www.pounds2go.net)
Today marks two months since I took control, starting focussing on health and start losing some weight.

Today I am focussing on what I have gained (and lost!) in those two months and how I hope to keep going for as long it takes.

My jeans are falling off

I fitted into a pair of jeans I haven’t worn in well over a year.

I’m beginning to have a neck again

I’ve got one less chin but still a few more than I should have.  That’s OK, I’m working on the rest of them!
I’ve lost 15 lb and something like 7.5% of my starting bodyweight  (started at 14st 4, currently 13 stone 3 or 200 lb to 184 lb).

I’ve gained the ability to sit in front of the mirror in the hairdressers and not feel like I’m the fattest person ever.

I’ve gained the ability to fit my clothes better

I’ve gained some control over my eating habits.  Hopefully more will come but even if it doesn’t that’s ok.

I’ve gained an understanding of how strong I really can be.

I know that turning down some chocolate can be just as good as eating it.

I’ve gained an insight into just how true the saying “Nothing Tastes As Good As Being In Control Feels” is.

I’ve found out that I can do this

I’ve decided that I will do this and I have.

Today I am celebrating these two months and preparing for the long months to come as I continue losing it.

Today I am celebrating the fact that the journey may be long and the road hard but I will lose these remaining lb and I will get there.

>Quotes

>“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.”
-Mary Anne Radmacher

“It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis.”

-Margaret Bonnano

“The healthy and strong individual is the one who asks for help when he needs it. Whether he’s got an abscess on his knee or in his soul.”
-Rona Barrett

Apt quotes for today, all of them.

I’ve been struggling with my care this week to such an extent that I’d had enough of it earlier today. But I’ll try again tomorrow – and in doing that I’ll be courageous. I’ll accept that I can still have my happy ever after in my life despite the tough days and I’ll be strong and ask my care agency to help me control the issues that have got me down.

>101 in 1001

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I’ve decided to do the 101 in 1001 challenge. If you look on my sidebar there is a permanent link to a page I set up explaining the challenge and listing my 101 things I am going to accomplish in those 1001 days. Some are habit forming (or breaking) some are fun, some are scary and some are life changing, some are off the wall and some are shamelessly stolen from other people’s lists.
It’s taken me a good few hours to come up with the list but it’s been fun to do. And hopefully they will be fun to carry out too. I feel like today was a productive day.

>”I don’t need no good advice, no well intentioned sacrifice”

>It’s been a lazy, lazy day today… it’s been nice. Gave me a chance to recharge my batteries and also to think somethings over and get them sorted out in my head. And my lovely friend Ted who is one of my swimming volunteers and also treasurer for the access group came round and adjusted my brakes for me so they actually work now. He really is a lovely man and I am grateful to have such a caring and helpful person in my life.
It’s bitterly cold but dry out and so I took the chance to get outside and get some fresh air – I took my manual chair and so I got some exercise too. I think it helped my thinking a lot to get out of the house and away from the situation if you know what I mean.
I got a lot of conflicting advice from different people about my meeting with my social worker and how it made me feel – I think I’ve now figured out which path is the right one to take on this matter but the chances are I’ll change my mind again between now and when I get the chance to actually act on it.

It’s almost reached the point with my “key advisers” where I know pretty much what their take on each matter will be. Which is good. It does save me some time!

But it’s also bad when one of them always takes the path of least resistance, least effort and in the process usually manages to give the impression that she has heard what I’ve said but not listened to it. Thinking it over today however I’ve come to realise that it’s not so much that she doesn’t listen to what I say but that she lacks the experiences I’ve had and the perspective which would allow her to see things the way I do. She sees doing something about this as making a big deal of it perhaps “rocking the boat” whereas I see doing something about it as a positive thing – preventative action which should stop myself (and potentially others) from ending up in the same situation in the future.

One of the most important lessons I learned during my training for CAB is that it doesn’t matter whether you agree with what your client feels. It’s what they feel and so it’s valid and you have to accept that. Agreement doesn’t matter, acceptance does.

I’ve been dealing with quite a few people in my life outside of CAB lately who need to learn that lesson – the world would be a better place if we worried less about agreeing with people and starting accepting our differences and being proud of them instead.

But then I guess that’s just wishful thinking and a dream that is highly unlikely to ever come true.

>St Patricks Day!

>Here’s to you and yours, and to mine and ours.
And if mine and ours ever come across to you and yours,
I hope you and yours will do as much for mine and ours,
As mine and ours have done for you and yours!
~Irish Toast

St Patricks’ Day isn’t something that is too much of a big deal to me – it’s just another day.

But I’ve been thinking today about one of the St Patrick Day’s when I was at uni, Michelle and I went and sat outside the LRV and had a drink on St Patricks Day. (so this would have been two or three years ago). It was warm. it was nice and it was fun.

I used to love sitting in a huge crowd of people on the tarmac outside the union watching everyone walk between lectures and around to the halls and just seeing the world go by! I really think it was the little things like that which added up to the huge whole that made my university experiences so great rather than the big experiences – although they rocked too.
A big difference from today when it’s bitterly cold and I just wanted to stay in the house! For some reason I’m finding the difference/contrast quite astounding today although I probably shouldn’t be.
I loved my time in Stoke at uni and I miss it. I’ve been missing it more and more the last few days but I wouldn’t want to go back.

I am however very grateful for the good times I had their and the happy memories I have of my time there!

>Another One Bites The Dust

>(cross posted to http://www.pounds2go.net )

Another one bites the dust
Another one bites the dust
And another one gone, and another one gone
Another one bites the dust
Hey, I’m gonna get you too
Another one bites the dust

My scales show I’m down another pound this morning which I am more than happy to take! I’ve been in a pit of depression all week so I wasn’t expecting to lose anything. It was a nice surprise to see that this morning.
I’m just trying to believe that its actual real weight loss and not because I had my hair cut from shoulder length to chin length yesterday morning!

Emma ~ 15 lb lost, 35 pounds2go!